It is impossible to live life without having bad hair days. Take a moment. Put down the hairspray/anti-frizz serum. Take a deep breath. Process it. It’s going to be okay.
Growing up with curly hair, I was bullied because of my hair. Bullies called me frizz-head, and it made me so self-conscious of my hair that I wore my hair in a gelled ponytail every day for two years. I thought frizz was the most embarrassing thing on the planet.
Throughout high school, I tried to straighten my hair into submission, but the frizz returned as soon as my hair touched humidity. I tried a million different products to fight the frizz, but it wasn’t until I got older that I realized that frizz is part of having curly hair.
Hair is frizzy. It’s flat. It gets greasy. It gets squished down on one side when you sleep on it. It gets tangled, and sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get that dang part straight. Bad hair days happen, and there is nothing you can do to stop them.
I am all for good hair care. Happy hair is healthy hair, but that doesn’t meant that healthy hair is always going to be happy.
I hear women continuously tearing themselves down because their hair is a frizzy or their curls have fallen and, I just have to shake my head. Ladies, first of all, you’re gorgeous, and it’s time you start appreciating the things you love about yourself and stop dwelling on things you can’t change. Secondly, a bad hair day is not the end of the world. It’s going to happen, again and again and again, and it’s time to accept there is nothing you can do about it.
Perfect hair does not exist. Those supermodel curls and sleek, shining locks that you see on TV and in magazines are a product of fancy lighting, too much product, and the ever popular, Photoshop.
You are a human being. At some point every day, you leave your house and go out into the real world, and that means dealing with humidity, dryness, rain, and wind. Nature doesn’t care whether you spent an hour straightening your hair – all it takes is one speck of humidity and your hard work is curling and frizzing the moment you step out the door.
It’s time that we all get over the perfect hair thing. It’s unattainable (despite what Tumblr pictures may show us), and it’s time that we move on to something more important to obsess about (like our cuticles). Life is going to happen, and hair cannot live up to the perfect standards we keep setting for it.
I’m not saying give up on hair care. Hair care is important because let’s be honest, good hair makes us feel good, but bad hair shouldn’t be the end of our existence. We are not perfect and no one expects any one else to be perfect or look perfect or act perfect.
I know after reading this, you will all run back to your serums and hairsprays, and that’s okay, but the next time your hair is unmanageable, take a deep breath, and remember your world isn’t going to crumble because you’ve got a bit of frizz or flyaways like crazy. You are still beautiful and still loved.
And when all else fails, remember there are stores full of hats, headbands, and hair ties to manage that crazy hair for the day.